Well, first off, we all know that it’s been long since I sat down and wrote something… You are allowed to blame me because I have a very poor excuse for my long hiatus. And for the sake of maintaining peace with you guys, I won’t talk about it, at least not yet.
Hmm, so what shall we talk about then? I have a very interesting story for you, it isn’t as interesting for me though.
I was dressed in the most amazing beach shorts you can ever find, red and black flames; a loose t-shirt that definitely complimented the oh-so-lovely shorts… Anyway, enough of my awesome shorts. She was standing right in the middle of the room, the ocean breeze swayed her sundress from side to side. She looked really lovely this lady; in my head, I knew she would say yes. Say yes to being my dinner date in the ‘beside the ocean, right at the open barbeque area.’
You see, there’s an annual tradition in our church, go to Diani Beach for a week of vacation, seeking the Lord and just bonding. The last day of camp is usually the Candle-lit Dinner by the beach, and it’s standard practice to find someone to take for dinner as your date.
Hence my story, which continues… I gathered up my thoughts, smooth words already at the tip of my tongue, my confidence was shooting up the roof and I made my move, stated my agenda with as much chivalry and manliness as I could. Well, long story short, I was left devastated and almost heartbroken. I was confused, my heart was literally torn into shreds, or it felt like that. I was rejected by someone I felt we had something going on.
Now, I don’t know what it is that has ever happened to you that makes or made you feel rejected. Maybe it’s your spouse handing you those divorce papers, your boyfriend calling it quits on you during a very trying period, it could be a missed job opportunity, or getting fired. I know you have your own story of rejection.
But how does it make you feel? Do you feel worse than I did after my date went south, it might feel sad, others feel devastated or even unwanted.
2 Timothy 4
16 At my first defense, no one came to my support, but everyone deserted me. May it not be held against them.17 But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength…
Paul was writing to Timothy at the end of this letter which was written while still in jail. He was left all alone, everyone deserted him during a crucial point in his life. This means that everyone goes through rejection at some point in their lives.
Two Things that we can Learn about rejection:
- We get to realize God’s faithfulness in our lives. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
- We become more like Jesus.
How, you ask? Well, for starters, Jesus was rejected to the point of death. And the same people who asked for his crucifixion had a few days earlier welcomed him on a donkey like the true royalty. But when Jesus was being crucified, he was not bitter, he did it out of love. Rejection should generate love, just like in Jesus’ case.
In addition, rejection is a key ingredient in being more like Jesus.
This discovery made my life so much easier after realizing how much rejection I had faced and will face in future. I faced three possibilities that I’d like to share with you as well:
- Seek to avoid rejection by staying in isolation and out of touch with the world, which would ultimately mean going contrary to God’s word.
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
- Complain about it, or accusing others, especially those who have caused us pain.
Revelation 12:10“Now have come the salvation and the powerand the kingdom of our God,and the authority of his Messiah.For the accuser of our brothers and sisters,who accuses them before our God day and night,has been hurled down.
- Rise above it.
Realize that rejection is part of God’s plan to make you like Jesus. Embrace them, pray for them and simply rise above it.
Finally, accept the rejection from people in your life, but avoid the rejection of God from our lives.
Have a lovely weekend people